Last night, my mom, myate and I had a very serious talk about guys, sex and marriage. It wasn’t the first time we had this kind of conversation but last night was the most serious, if not, the most intense girl talk we’ve ever had concerning these matters. My sister is getting married next year and of course, my mom is going gaga over everything including me.
My sister will be 29 next year, not the expected age my mom wanted her to get married and definitely not the perfect age to start having kids. My mom had always wanted for us to get married as early as 25 so we can have kids way before the dreaded age 30 comes. Ideally, it sounds nice but then again that age target is a tad too early for today’s women to get settled. Especially me, I mean I’m already 22 and after I graduate from college, I still have to go to medschool, earn my license and then work. Earning an MD entails service and this is something I am determined to commit myself to no matter what or who.
My parents have repeatedly urged me to invite those pesky suitor(s) to our house. But I had to refuse them because (1) I don’t like him/them and (2) I’ll only be wasting my time entertaining him/them. And besides, having a boyfriend isn’t my goal right now and it can wait. I’m not idiotic to go out with someone just because I am told to. NO, I am more than that and I have bigger plans to emerge myself into. More importantly, those pesky guy/s don’t know squat about what I like. Darn it, all they know are medical stuff! Not that it’s bad but that’s just boring! They can’t even tell me anything about politics and movies and books and music and stuff. I can’t live without current events and humor! ARGH!
Anyway, my mom was worried that my sister might have problems getting pregnant because of her age and her being a super workaholic:
Mom: Ven (short for Venia), tumigil ka kaya sa work mo after kang ikasal? Mga 6 months or 1 year lang…? (Why don’t you stop working for 6 months or a year after your wedding?)
Ven: (Looking shocked and a bit angry) Mommy, bakit? (Why?)
Mom: Para sure na magkaka-anak kayo after one year! (So you’ll have a baby after a year!)
Ven: Kaya ko yang pagsabay-sabayin! Madali lang yan Mommy. (I can do all that, it’s easy)
And all the while I was just watching them, laughing from the inside that thank God I wasn’t the one getting married or drilled. But then my mom turned to me and said:
Mom: Hoy ikaw, ‘wag kang pangiti-ngiti lang dyan ha. Gusto ko may boyfriend ka na. (Don’t laugh; I want you to have a boyfriend)
Me: Mommy, magkakaroon ako ‘pag may nakita akong matino. okay? (I’ll have one if I see one that’s okay)
Mom: Eh di mawawala na silang lahat! Itataboy mo na naman! (Then they’ll all go away!)
Me: Mommy, relax…hinga. It’s not a problem. (Mom just relax, breathe)
Then my mom scratched her head and pretended to look mad at me. I just smiled at her and pointed out that she shouldn’t worry about me because my sister was the one on the spot here: not me.
Me: Mommy, matagal ka pang mamumublema sa ‘kin tungkol dyan. Pero I doubt it kung poproblemahin mo nga ako pagdating dyan. (Mommy, it’ll be a long while before you worry about that about me. But I doubt it if you’ll have any problems by then)
I am just amazed at how my Mom can be so demanding at times but be totally caring at the same time. It’s not something everyone is good at but my mom does it like a pro. Imagine being ordered by your mom to get a boyfriend?! My friends would kill just so their parents would let them go out with boys. My mom (and sometimes my dad) would always tell me that it’s my right to have one and that I shouldn’t pass it up. Problem is, I couldn’t find someone that I like.
We ended at around 12:30 am because my dad was already shouting downstairs for us to sleep and give him peace. My mom, as she always did, hugged and kissed us good night. When she came to my room, she said:
Mom: Nen (my petname), puro stuffed toys pa rin ang nasa kwarto mo. Itapon na kaya natin sila? (You still have stuffed toys in your room. Why don’t we throw them out?)
Me: Ha? Bakit naman? (Why?)
And then I started enumerating who gave this and that to me and why I’ve kept them for so long. Most of my toys were given as presents by my dad and my kuya and I had to point that out to my mom.
Mom: Kaya hanggang ngayon baby ka pa rin kasi puro pambata pa rin ang gusto mo eh. (That’s why we still treat you as our baby because you still like kids’ stuff)
Haha. Not really Mom; it’s because you’ve always seen me as a baby and because I’ve always liked being treated as one. 
hahaha! that’s funny. yeah, i also get a lot of questions when i’m gonna get married since i’ve been living with my bf for more than a year now. but i’m only 23!! i’m trying to escape marrying, my ex actually asked me to marry him and i’m glad i wasn’t pressured to marry my son’s dad.
but i think it’s better to wait, there’s no magical age that makes you ready for marriage. and besides, there’s a study that filipino men are having a hard time growing up. and in these times, you really have to be very picky.
rotfl: i can almost hear my mom through your conversations with yours =]
but given my choice of profession and the specific field of medicine that i chose to swim into, my mom and dad have partially given up that i’d settle down soon =]
being an MD is tough; moreso, life for FEMALE MDs =] while getting married while in medical school is not unheard of, it is an option few MD-to-be’s take.
in due time, all will fall into place. but for now- it ain’t too bad to date and see people and hang out… just don’t lose sight of what you REALLY want in life =]
you’re 22 pa lang?! yaiks. i feel jurassic. [turning 28 in a few weeks' time =0]
Haha FUNNY! Someone is being asked to have a relationship and at all times now! Hahaha this is indeed funny. Another funny thing is, who will be that (un)lucky guy that will be your boyfriend! That will be hilarious to have someone bossy as you have someone like a personal slave! Hahaha! Nice one! Anyways, I think it is the best desicion for someone who will be in med school anyways. But damn, what will you look like, lets say, 8 years from now. Hahaha!
issai:
yes, to wait is to receive better (ngek).
wow, your tough! good for you girl!
doc ian:
actually i already feel jurassic. bwahaha.
my friend ivy (whos in pgh) has told me that a gazillion times (that female mds really have a tough time). pero what the heck, ok lang po yan. mas masaya yun…lalo na pag maraming cute! joke lang po.
sargi:
im not taking the december nmat this time. summer na lang. im sort of trying to convince my dad to let me take lae kasi instead. hehehe. wala lang. i just want to. being in law has always been a dream kaya i dont want to go into med thinking i could have done better in law. but to be honest, i just want to take the lae, yun lang. im still doing med.
8 years from now ill still be stunning, if not better (looking) than i am now. haha. malay mo, baka kami talaga ni dennis trillo ang destined together! (libre mangarap brod)
thanks for dropping by!
Jeez, it only gets worse as you get older and stay single much longer. You can’t imagine how much my relatives have been pestering me about “domestic bliss” (whatever that is, delusional onlookers they are). The important thing is that the ultimate decision is really up to you. I still maintain that married life isn’t for everyone.
Let’s just say that I enjoy being single right now. I don’t have to be responsible for too many things at this point. I still enjoy going to concerts and movies too much to let all of that come to a halt.
tell mom not to worry. when you’re ready, he’ll be there. that’s what you call fate.
volume-addict and plaridel:
so i take it your both still single and a long long way to getting settled. haha. thanks!
whops let me correct the pathway : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufFIjtbE9uQ
If it doesn’t work, type Scrubs, Jordan, and it will be the third video from the top. Hahaha
Well if it won’t work type in the search menu, scrubs, jordan. It will be the third video from the top! Hehehe
Ahh so you’re not taking the NMAT hmm. Anyways, true, it is free to dream, well you did dream and it was big. Unfortunately, I think you’ll have more age lines in your face that will, yes make you look more stunning in a sense. Ahahahahah. Better looking would be a big question also, though they said, women are like wine the more they age the better they become, or they’ll turn to vinegar. Hahahaha. Well see me off at Dec 9! I’ll be taking it again! Well good bless in lae! I’ll see you off there too!
But frankly you in 8 years? hehe I can imagine really wht will be the scenario. Hehehe it will be like watching Jordan Sullivan from Scrubs after that. Hahaha. Watch this film at you tube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufFIjtbE9uQ.
try it will be just like you! Hahahaha. Well you’ll get the angry part right anyways hehehe
wow doc ian comments in your blog.
hi sir!
at na-special mention pa ako… eek nina, very awkward convo naman ata to. pero not surprising, knowing that it’s from your mom. i can just imagine your face(s) as she kulits you about it.
congratulations to your ate!
ivy:
psst!!!! san tayo punta this xmas?! mauubos na money ko wala pa tayong plans!!!